Sisterhood Where You Least Expect Her

Photo by yours truly

Photo by yours truly

Hey y’all,

Have any of you heard about the Thorani? (Or Phae Mae Thorani – spelling varies.)

She has so been my girl on this trip. She’s cool and she’s hot. She’s awesome!

She’s also part of the Buddhist legend, and a very important part at that, so I’m both surprised and a little sad that I never heard of her until this trip.

Although I’ve had a healthy respect and interest in Buddhism, I’m no expert and I haven’t studied it beyond a casual interest of an article here, a book there, and dropping in on Buddhist-style meditations from time to time.

So I’m wondering if patriarchy and/or fear of pagan spirituality might be the reason why I’ve never heard of the Thorani until I came to Luang Prabang.

Because she’s everywhere here, this beautiful, sensuous looking woman wringing the water out of her long hair.

One question about her to Kip and he was on it! He looked her up and sent us the Wiki page explaining this wondrous being.

You know the Buddhist mantra pose of left hand in lap, while the right hand reaches to the ground? It’s the pose I’ve seen most often in the statues here.

According to the story, Buddha was deep in meditation under the bodhi tree in his quest for enlightenment. Mara, a demon who was psychotically jealous of Buddha and his mission in life, thought who was Buddha to reach enlightenment?

So Mara cast his demons and his temptress daughters on him to distract the Buddha from reaching enlightenment. Still in his deep meditation, Buddha reached his right hand down to the earth and thought to himself: “Let the earth bear witness to this.”

And an earth goddess, Thorani, rose to the occasion. She reflected on all the good deeds Buddha had done in his life and that created a river of water in her hair. Then Thorani wrung the cool waters of detachment from her long tresses and created a powerful flood that drowned out Mara, his demons, and his daughters.

What a badass!Photo by yours truly

What a badass!

Photo by yours truly

Thus Buddha was freed up to reach enlightenment, instead of having to defend his meditative state from an onslaught of shit.

One of the things that really strikes me every time I see a painting or statue of her is her striking sensuality and beauty. Often, she’s topless and when she’s not, she’s wearing a bandeau around her breasts. Her sexual nature is obvious.

The Buddhists aren’t known for their celebration of sexuality, so I find that interesting.

Also, there’s something about this legend that reminds me of the union of Shakti and Shiva, even if the Thorani wasn’t Buddha’s girlfriend. Well, he had already left his wife and son to become the Buddha, so…

But Shakti is the dynamic energy who wakes Shiva up, who is in a deep meditative state. And in this instance, the Thorani protects the Buddha, so he can remain in his meditative state to reach nirvana.

The stories are different, but something about the nature of them is similar. This isn’t the first time I noticed that vague connection between Hinduism and Buddhism.

A former novice/monk who took me on a tour of one of the temples said: “Oh we’re also Hindu,” when I mentioned it.

Perhaps this is my imagination, yet I kind of feel like Thorani has been my guardian earth goddess on this trip. Maybe because I’ve been meeting an extraordinary number of my sisters since I got to SE Asia.

The strangest and some kind of wonderful thing happened to me last night. Kip and Angela left on Friday (right now is Thursday morning in Laos). Except for dinner with Peter on Saturday, I’ve had little connection with people since my friends left.

(Peter was a new friend picked up on our first night here in Luang Prabang when Angela offered him a banana as he was walking past. It stopped him in his tracks, and he kept saying in a German accent that there had to be a catch. No catch. Angela thought he was cute, and that’s how Kip and Angela roll. Everybody is invited to the party.)

I was thinking about traveling alone and ways to draw on my inner resources last night as I went to a beautiful, outdoor café with a lot of silk lanterns hanging from the trees and lighting up the space.

Thanks to 3 obnoxious toddlers at the table next to me, I changed tables and ended up next to other Americans. Believe it or not, they’re kind of rare. Most of the Western travelers I’ve come across are from Europe, especially France.

Anyway, at the table next to mine was another lone female traveler. Her name was Natasha.

The food here is incredibly beautiful in its presentation, and she asked me what dish I got – Duck Pancakes – and we fell to talking.

When asked “so where are you from?” Natasha answered:

“Originally? I’m from Florida.”

“Me too,” I answered.

“Really? Where?”

“Orlando.”

“Shut up!”

“What high school did you go to?”

“Boone,” she replied.

“Edgewater,” I answered.

For those of you not from Central Florida, Boone was originally Orlando High, but when the town grew large enough to need a 2nd high school, Orlando High split into Boone and Edgewater.

So yeah, small world. We shared an OMFG moment and she joined me for dinner.

Isn’t that the craziest coincidence? It didn’t stop there.

Not only were we from Orlando, but we’d been gone from there for so long, we really weren’t psychologically Floridian anymore. That’s a good thing, btw. My experience of Orlando is that it’s conservative with a stifling way of life, especially for women.

That was one of the first things we’ve talked about. Another that we talked about was how the quality of travel changes when you’re no longer in your 20’s or even 30’s.

I was reminded of this a couple of nights ago when I tried to get some writing done at Utopia – “Zen by day, groovy by night” is its slogan – a really lovely outdoor bar/café with floor pillows and cushions, etc. on bamboo floors above the Nam Khan River about a ½ mile before it feeds into the mighty Mekong River.

Anyway, I chose a spot on a lower platform with a gorgeous view of a river at night. It was all peaceful and chill, or “zen,” until the group of 20-something travelers next to me kept growing and expanding and encroaching on my space.

They were there for the “groovy.”

It was obvious that these folks with varying accents speaking English and introducing themselves, probably met at one of the nearby hostels, and the invite of “Hey, we’re going out drinking! Wanna come?” was all one needed to make new friends.

Because that’s how easy it is to meet people when you’re traveling at that age. I remember that phase fondly and well, and I’m grateful I got to enjoy that.

But that’s not where I’m at now. I fully enjoyed hostel traveling for a generous length of time, and hostels saved me from excruciating loneliness during my DIY booktour/roadtrip in 2005-2006.

But not long after that, I realized I wanted the privacy of my own room and a place to write, as well as a sense of safety that my laptop wouldn’t get stolen.

Eventually, even the most young-at-heart of us outgrow hostel travel.

So meeting people is more random and less guaranteed.

There’s also the barrier of language. The Laos accent is really difficult for me to understand, so it limits the potential for connection.

So I appreciated that run-in with Natasha who was raised in the same parts where I was, and there with no language barrier. She was easy to connect with because we already had a lot in common. Dinner with her last night was the first meaty conversation I had had in 4 days.

Natasha has lived in China for the better part of 20 years, 12 years in Beijing and the last several in Shanghai. She works for the Montessori school system as a consultant.

Montessori in China. Who would have thought?

Anyway, she’s on a multi-stop trip back to St. Augustine – where she lives for a couple of months a year when she is in Florida – to sit out the coronavirus.

She said living through SARS in 2003 had been bad enough. She told me that everybody in China had to self-quarantine for 2 weeks back then, with groceries delivered to your door.

She also talked a lot about how social media made this thing blow up and the Chinese government doesn’t have a handle on this. She said shops are closing all over China, not just Wuhan – and everybody has to do a 14-day self-quarantine so the virus doesn’t explode exponentially, which it’s starting to do.

“Yep. Did that with SARS. Don’t need to do that again.”

(Ha! That pales in comparison to what we’re going through with the Coronavirus - I originally wrote this on January 30th.)

The panic has spread to Laos too. I showed up this morning at one of my coffee houses and couldn’t recognize the staff because all of them had on blue surgical face masks.

I’ve been seeing more and more face masks on folks as the days have gone by. I asked even though I already knew the answer.

“We’re worried about that virus from China,” said one. “We have Chinese people coming in here.”

Oh yeah, by the way, I’m still in Luang Prabang. I’ve changed my travel plans so many times, I’m embarrassed to admit it. What can I say? I am a lazy traveler.

But I also really fell in love with this town and wanted to stay long enough to truly absorb the VIBE of this place. I’m finally leaving on Saturday, and by the time I go, I will have been in SE Asia for 4 weeks, and will have spent half that time in Luang Prabang.

Now that’s magic.

Seems like Luang Prabang snuggled between the Nam Khan and Mekong Rivers is a vortex that SUCKS YOU IN! People have chuckled with every ticket change and extension of where I’m staying. I even changed hotels for 5 more days.

That gives me the impression that this happens a lot. That people come for a few days and end up staying a while.

One thing I’ll say about this trip is that I feel like I’ve definitely made some new friends. It’s always such a joy and a pleasure to meet new sisters when you least expect to.

Queer or straight, I’ve found that women are not only imprisoned by conformity, they are also the prison guards and the enforcers of the conformity that holds us down and back. I could write several books on this subject because this shit has caused me problems, heartache, and anguish for most of my life.

So, every time I meet a woman – anywhere - who lives on her terms instead of from standards imposed by outside forces, especially when she approaches life with more lust and more hunger and more passion, I do back flips and squeal WHEEE!!!!

One of the greatest blessings of this trip is that I believe I’ve met quite a few of these free-wheeling soulsisters.

Angela and I really connected in the time we hung out in Chiang Mai and Luang Prabang. I also met 2 or 3 women at the Tantric Shitshow with whom I hope to stay in touch. (Obviously, Quixotic Sierra is not one of them.)

And who knows? Maybe Natasha will be a new friend, or that meeting was nothing more than 2 ships passing in the night. Asia is more her turf than it is mine, and she doesn’t need me.

If that be the case, I had a lovely, rich conversation with her last night when I needed it, and that will probably keep me sustained until my next random meeting with a kindred spirit.

Speaking of kindred spirits…

Thanks so much for the letters, notes, texts, and calls (WhatsApp). I especially love it when somebody reaches out for the first time. These contacts, however brief, are priceless and nourishing. I need that right now, so please keep it coming.

Peace,

Mana

Coming Home. A Day of Subtle Wonders, Part 2

Blue Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me.

Blue Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me.

Hey y’all,

After another splendid afternoon at the Once Café, I walked to the Blue Temple in time for sunset.

As the guy at my guesthouse had said, the place was far less crowded. The falling light also made the temple more beautiful. But it still felt like the Disneyland of Buddhist Temples.

On the way back though, magic happened.

Walking in Thailand is an experience of watching where you step. When traveling with Kip, he pointed out the many perils along the way with efficiency.

“Don’t trip here,” he’d say at an unexpected step that could have easily tripped me up if I hadn’t paid attention.

“Broken concrete.”

“Broken glass. Watch your step.”

Although not as shocking as in India, there was always trash, and I even came across a couple of logs of human feces freshly shat right on the sidewalk.

That was a couple of days ago.

So spacing out in my own little world, as I often do on walks, is not a good idea here. Pay attention to my surroundings or fall flat on my face or step in shit.

The Blue Temple was almost 3 kilometers away, on the other side of the river from my guesthouse.

I wouldn’t have noticed this place had it not been dark.

As I approached the stairs to the walking path of the bridge, I heard the clink of dishes and silverware – sure signs of a nearby restaurant – on my right. Through the lush foliage, I saw a tall white building and the glass enclosure of what looked to be an elegant conservatory.

That made me curious. I wandered over and sure enough, it was a restaurant and a bakery.

I walked into something that was straight out of French Colonialism.

This place could have been in New Orleans with the soaring ceilings, soft wood floors, verandas, and columns, and just the way the space was made.

I didn’t expect that in Thailand, but Chiang Rai is so close to the Laos border, it’s definitely possible this area had had French settlers.

This place was a jewel.

Very romantic with seating both inside and outside before the river. With the classical French architecture and the lush growth of the tropical environment that is Thailand, the atmosphere was stunning and romantic and very relaxing.

Of course, there were a lot of couples dining there, and most people I saw were Thai.

I wasn’t super hungry, but there was no way I wasn’t going to have dinner there. The best tables were reserved, but the host sweetly guided me to a place on the lawn near the river.

Dinner was delicious.

Tamarind vermicelli noodles baked in a puff pastry with a small soft-shelled crab on top, I even had wine with that. For dessert, I indulged in a creamy panna cotta with a decadent strawberry sauce, and a honey-mint limeade to drink.

But the food doesn’t matter near so much as I felt dining there.

Nothing brings my soul to life faster than spontaneity.

That is one of the treasures of traveling – especially alone because there’s no negotiating with somebody else. The chances to follow curiosity where it takes me are abundant, and I love it when I’m rewarded with discovery.

But there was something about what happened here. Finding this gorgeous place where I had a gorgeous dinner because I followed my curiosity filled me with so much joy.

I didn’t care that I wasn’t part of a couple. I didn’t mind I wasn’t there with a new travel buddy. The gift for me in that moment was the spirit of celebration in the experience of solitude.

Photo by me.

Photo by me.

I’ve dined alone many times. But last night, I was so happy in that. Before I left, I knew that I had finally come back to center.

Without going into too many details, something happened about 18 years ago that pulled up a lot of repressed memories and pretty much set off PTSD.

Before that, I had always been comfortable by myself, doing things on my own, and spending time alone. That’s not to claim that I was healthy when I was young. I was shut down, but I thought I was healthy.

Anyway, one of the more painful side effects of that thing that happened was this terror of being alone - specifically going through life alone.

I lost my balance, my sense of who I thought I was, and fell out of my center. I became “needy” in a way that humiliating.

I had never been “that girl” before. And suddenly, I had no control over the emotional cyclone that had taken over my psyche and wreaked havoc on how I interacted with the world.

I did everything I could to get back to center.

Years of therapy, energy work, getting initiated/attuned to Reiki, workshops, hot springs, being in nature, dance, hiking, snowboarding, kayaking, tantra, breathwork, Ayahuasca…the list goes on and on.

The journey of healing was a long and winding road, and I had some amazing experiences. Everything I tried had its gifts. I gained some tools and became stronger and healthier.

I got closer and closer to center, but not all the way.

“You don’t take a trip. A trip takes you.”

Given that this particular journey was fueled by a post-breakup-freedom-drunk, I knew SE Asia would give me plenty to write about.

Last night, while I reveled in that gorgeous solo dining experience, I realized this trip took me back home to myself. And that was the last thing I expected.

How's that for a subtle wonder?

Thanks for reading.

Peace,

Mana

A Day of Subtle Wonders

White Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me

White Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me

Hey y’all,

I don’t know if I made it up – I’d like to think I did – or if I read it somewhere and forgot the source, but the phrase stuck.

“You don’t take a trip. A trip takes you.”

I’ve found that to be true often enough that it’s my philosophy around travel.

Like yesterday, I intended to write the next travel email because I’m starting another workshop tonight/tomorrow, and I was trying to be done with it.

But I simply couldn’t do it because my environment at the time was too wonderful. This is what I wrote in that moment.

“And I can’t write about this right now. I’m in that sweet spot of the Once Café, and there are lots Thai people around me. Women and a child at one table, a couple of Thai youths playing guitar and singing across from me, and a group of young people outside practicing archery. I got a dish simply because I saw it passing by and it looked good – spicy spaghetti noodles made with peppers and bacon, and it was delicious.

This place is overflowing with community.

This scene is so sweet and peaceful, I can’t bring myself to write about the murky bowels of sexuality. It’s so fresh and innocent and happy right now. Why spoil it for myself?

It’s not often that I wander down a road into a local scene. Most of the time, I’m surrounded by other westerners.

This is officially my favorite spot in Chiang Rai.”

Once Cafe, Chiang Rai, Thailand - Photo by me.

Once Cafe, Chiang Rai, Thailand - Photo by me.

My first full day in Chiang Rai, I didn’t do any sightseeing.

I landed in the gorgeousness of the Once Café, where I wrote for hours. And I got the bulk of my piece done while there. I stayed from late morning to late afternoon, ordering cappuccino and snacks as needed.

Except for a couple of teenagers who played guitar and sang, in spite of the jazz playing from a cell phone and a speaker, I had the place to myself on that first day.

It was awesome.

The woman who owned the place took my picture while I was working.

That was beyond flattering because 1) she recognized I was working, and 2) that she found a white woman working in her cafe unusual enough to photograph the experience when I’m the one who’s a tourist.

I noticed her husband was stringing a pretty bad-ass looking bow on my way to the toilet – which had toilet paper! (Yay!)

I asked if he was a bow hunter because my brother was.

“American?” he asked.

I nodded.

“It’s illegal to hunt in Thailand.”

Then he pointed out the archery range they had made of the yard.

I went back a second time, and the It started with the White Temple first thing in the morning. Since the White Temple is about 14 kilometers from Chiang Rai, the guesthouse boss drove me and waited until I was done, and drove me back.

I had gone to the Blue Temple the day before, and although beautiful, it could best be described as the Disneyland of Buddhist temples. It didn’t inspire the reverence of Buddhism in me that the more traditional temples did - especially the simple temples.

It was also packed with people. A sweet guy who worked at the guesthouse shook his head when I told him what I time I had gone.

“That is the worst time,” he said. “That’s when all the tour buses go. The best time to go to the Blue Temple is around sunset. There aren’t as many people.”

He also mentioned that his boss would take me to the White Temple, which is how I lucked out with an early morning ride.

There was nothing subtle about the wonder of the White Temple.

Like the Blue Temple, the White Temple did not inspire the reverence of the Buddhist faith. It’s not intended as a place of worship, really, so much as a stunning work of art. It’s pretty much a giant, intricate sculpture of white plaster and chunks of mirrored glass.

But the White Temple inspired my awe – that was for sure.

Driving up, the place glistened and sparkled, the pieces of mirror reflecting the light of the morning sun.

“Wow,” I whispered.

“Yes…” murmured the boss who delivered me to such a wondrous place.

I’m pretty sure my jaw dropped, and that was before I even got close up.

Talk about a place that survives its hype and even the crowds.

Even first thing in the morning, there were plenty of people there. I’m thankful I wasn’t there later because I’m sure the crowds must have been out of control.

Most of the buildings were white and glistening, but there were a couple of ornate gold structures as well – the bathroom (not sure what that was about) and the Ganesha temple, filled with the OM symbols, pictures and statues of the Hindu Elephant God. I’m still in the dark about the connection between Buddhism and Ganesha in Thailand btw – but they love him here.

The contrast was dramatic, between glistening and glimmering, silver white and yellow gold, which incidentally was the color scheme for Tao Garden’s yin/yang symbols.

This whole trip has been an immersion into the spirit of yin and yang. But for yesterday there was mainly the brightness of yang.

However, there was a creepy, macabre side to this temple as well.

Souls in Torment outside White Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me.

Souls in Torment outside White Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me.

The dark side was represented, the hunger and torment of those souls who have no faith, don’t believe in enlightenment, much less work towards it, was evident in the hanging heads of angry-looking people and superheroes – or maybe they were supervillains.

At the start of the temple, desperate hands reached out to us, one hand with one painted red nail shot us the finger. Some of the hands clutched skulls. Lots of torment and anguish from those who fell between the cracks of grace.

Then we crossed the bridge of that hell and approached the divinity of the Buddha.

My only grievance with the place was that I had to go on a mission to find the Thorani. I now do that at every Buddhist temple I go to. No temple is authentic without her – at least for me. I was getting pissed before I finally did at the end, but she had a place of glory.

Phra Mae Thorani at the White Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me.

Phra Mae Thorani at the White Temple, Chiang Rai, Thailand. Photo by me.

I was back at the guesthouse by 9:30.

I shipped a box of stuff from the post office, visited a traditional temple nearby and felt the reverence of Buddhism once again, then took a nap before my return to the Once Café that was filled with the liveliness I described at the beginning.

There were lots of subtle wonders to be found in that experience. The live music was pretty good too. The older one had a beautiful voice.

This experience was completely different.

Not that I mind.

I’m glad the Once Café, bustling with people and brimming with life, was a part of my yesterday.

Yesterday was one of those days filled with subtle wonders.

Peace,

Mana

Lone Wolf and Ships Passing in the Night

Photo by me

Photo by me

Hey y’all,

Traveling is bringing out the lone wolf in me.

I’m getting into the groove of that dance of solitude and connection. Being with myself and crossing paths with other travelers - usually solo female travelers – where we come together for a brief friendship of time spent in a place that’s not our home.

I’ve been very lucky with the people I’ve met. So much that I found myself craving alone time.

Anyway, when I was in Chiang Rai I spent practically all my time alone, with only the briefest of exchanges since I got here. And I’m good with it.

Of course, it helped that I knew my solitude came with an expiration date because I had a workshop right afterwards. Shared experience is always fodder for meeting and bonding with people.

The last few days I was in Chiang Mai, I buddied around at night with Nadia, who I met the day I checked out of my Thailand base, Hollanda Montri Guesthouse, run by Kiwi Dean and the Widow Su.

Nadia was the one who stared a conversation with me because I was tossing a 5 baht coin in my chronic game of yes or no answers to be found in heads or tails.

“Heads or tails? Which one do you want?”

“Depends on the question I’m asking.”

That’s how the convo started between us.

Nadia’s another seasoned traveler like Kip. Before she married a couple of years ago, she carved out 6 months a year for travel.

Nadia is what I’d call a soft extrovert. She wasn’t boisterous or overpowering, but she definitely knew very well how to meet people easily and connect.

When she met me for dinner in the old city, she had no problem asking the tattooed French guy if we could join him on a bamboo platform where another guy was snoozing in the hammock.

The Frenchman had lived in Thailand for years. Nadia asked him if he’d ever been a scuba dive instructor, which he said he had.

“Whenever I meet a Frenchman with tattoos, it seems they are always dive instructors.”

When the guy in the hammock woke up, she asked him what he’d been dreaming about.

He hadn’t been dreaming at all. He had been sleeping off a hangover.

I was ready for some alone time, or it may have even been her jetlag, but I found Nadia draining when I first met her.

But I squashed it down because she was company before I went to Chiang Rai, and who knows when I’d have a travel buddy to hang out with again?

Nadia was a very lovely woman. She was in Chiang Mai for a Thai massage course and to do her own thing, while her husband goes snowboarding in the Alps. They live in Holland.

Of course, Nadia was very interesting. I learned about a place I really want to go to from her.

“Get there before it’s discovered and becomes expensive,” she said. “It will happen because it is literally an oasis. My husband and I were there for our honeymoon 2 years ago, and it was magical.”

I just might go there next fall. And in the interests of keeping the secret a little longer, I’m not going to say where it is.

I saw Nadia every night from the time I met her until my last night in Chiang Mai when I circled the moat going around the old city of Chiang Mai.

It was so good to do that alone, even the tight spots of navigating near the old wall with vehicles coming at me. I felt light and free walking those 7+ kilometres.

I think Nadia was on the same page. She stayed at the guesthouse on the river and probably got her conversation needs met with Dean.

It’s such a gift to meet unusual, independent people while traveling.

As Natasha had said, traveling takes out a lot of stuff and distills the essence of who a person is. Then on top of that, solo female travelers crossing paths with other solo female travelers is its own magic.

It’s been a relief, this experience of connecting with kindred spirits.

But at the same time, there’s a compromise to spending time with another. Nadia had a very different rhythm than I, and sometimes it tested my patience to alter my pace to meet hers, and I’m not free to go where my feet lead me.

In some ways, that’s a blessing because I do things I wouldn’t have due to another’s influence. In other ways, I was kind of hungry for it – to simply do my own thing when I wanted as I wanted.

Those few days in Chiang Rai were pretty sweet. I got a good recharge before being around others again.

Traveling is getting me back in touch with my inner lone wolf. I met remarkable women in that workshop and made some beautiful new friends. Yet there were also plenty of times when I needed to go be by myself for a while. Usually to write, but often times simply just to be.

It’s a dance of solitude and connection, the alone time of being with one’s self and connecting with other beings for a brief friendship of two ships passing in the night, the horn sounding in the air as we all go our separate ways.

Most of these women I’ll probably never see again.

Peace,

Mana

Trippy Thailand of Gentle Reverence, the Buddha, Prostitutes, and LadyBoys

Image by Dean Moriarty from Pixabay

Image by Dean Moriarty from Pixabay

Hey y’all,

Thailand is trippy.

On one hand, this is a profoundly spiritual culture. There are temples and Buddha statues everywhere. Almost every home and business has a spirit house for their dead and any other spirits to live in, and people feed them often with food and sodas. (Spirits really love sugar.)

What I see in all this is a deep relationship with faith and the unseen, which is entrenched in people’s daily lives, the kind of relationship that is not typical in North America.

Thais are gentle people, and there’s delicacy and ritual to their manners that is definitely atypical in North America. Even the classiest, most polite American does not express reverence in their courtesy.

The Thais do. People put their hands together in the prayer position and bow every time they greet and thank you.

If you’re a regular person, the prayer hands are under the chin or at the chest. If one is of higher status, they bring their hands up to their foreheads.

Thailand has strong feminine energy.

On the way here, I noticed my Thai flight attendant had on makeup, but I also sensed he was gay. Yet many of the straight men wear foundation as well in an attempt to make their skin look flawless.

The women are ladylike, soft-spoken, and demure. They’re not as modest as Laos women, but that country is conservative and communist. So…

And on the other hand, Thailand is well…decadent. Although it’s illegal, prostitution is accepted and it’s everywhere.

“A lot of tourists come here to boink,” said Dean. “Sex tourism is huge here.”

Prostitution is not only confined to the cities. All the villages have at least one brothel.

I first heard about this from Robert’s first wife, Lisa.

In the 90’s, she had been in the Peace Corps for 4 years as an English teacher in a small village. But another of her duty calls was to go around the brothels and educate – or try to - the prostitutes about condoms because HIV and AIDS was spreading fast.

“It’s as normal for a Thai man to stop at the brothel and get laid after work as it is for us to stop at a bar to get a beer,” Lisa said. “Problem is, although everybody has sex, nobody talks about it. So it was difficult to teach these girls about using condoms because they got so embarrassed.”

Lisa told me that the girls were sold to the brothels by their parents because their families were so poor that their daughters could support them. And they did. Even the most hardened prostitutes in Bangkok send most of their money home.

From this memory, I took that to mean that brothels were common, and that prostitution was contained therein. I didn’t know about the girly bars or the grittier Thai massage parlors.

Prostitutes were not on my mind as I flew to Udon Thani. Why would they be since I learned about the Red Lotus Sea?

I’m happy I went. The Red Lotus Sea of Pink Water Lilies did not disappoint.

What I didn’t know was my hotel was on a street with girly bars and massage parlors, and an arcade with a dozen girly bars was kitty corner to the hotel.

I like to walk around. It helps me feel out the vibe of a place.  

All my back and forth forays along my street made me aware that the women here were unusually friendly.

“Hello Madame!”

“You want a massage! It will be wonderful experience for you!”

One evening, I was restless and went back out with the vague intention of trying to find the night market.

There were a lot more girls in the small bars along the street. They were young, and showing some skin in tank tops and short dresses.

Thai women are very beautiful, and these girls were no exception.

The girls looked so odd, sitting alone in these deserted bars while men conversed in the Italian café and the Irish pub.

I did see one girl sitting close to a 60ish white guy. She was 20 at the oldest.

Since day had turned to night, the girls were even friendlier than they had been earlier.

I went to the arcade thinking it was some kind of open-air market with various shops and cafes.

Instead, it was more like running the gauntlet.

The night was slow, the men were absent, and I was the only game in town.

“Hello Madame! Come on in!”

“Want to play pool! Welcome!”

The girls swarmed to the edges and called out. The demure standards of Thai femininity keep them from being too aggressive. But the ladyboys are not hindered with reticence.

An absolutely stunning ladyboy with thick, glossy hair, dressed in tight black jeans, a black bra, and high heels undulated her way to me with a big smile and her arms outstretched.

“Hello! Hello!”

She even gave me a hug, took my hand, and tried to drag me into the bar while the other girls of that bar cheered her on, but still hung back.

I extricated myself, told her she was beautiful, and continued on my way to the end of the arcade.

It was around this time that I finally got a clue as to where I was. But the arcade ended at a dead end with no place to go, so I had to turn around and make my way back.

The ladyboy approached again.

“Hello Madame! Come and have a drink with me!”

I actually wanted to. Thai ladyboys are known for their incredible beauty, eccentricity, and charm. I’m sure I would have had a very unique adventure that would have made an unforgettable story if I had said yes.

But.

I didn’t know enough about where I was or what I was getting into. Sometimes you have to forego a vivid experience to err on the side of caution.  

So I shook my head, got out of there, and immediately came back to the hotel where I googled and found lots of information about girly bars and prostitutes and ladyboys.

Apparently, they make a cut off the “lady drinks” that you buy them. There was no mention of spiking drinks with drugs or anything like that.

The next morning, I had my day at the lake.

There was a Thai couple in the boat next to mine. The girl was not demure. She stood and screamed down at her boyfriend/husband hunched over in the bow. My boatman understood what she was shrieking about and chuckled.

Eventually, the boyfriend/husband got riled enough to yell back, but that didn’t shut her up.

I couldn’t understand a word she said, but I was disgusted with the girlfriend/wife. She seemed truly awful.

I urged my boatman to move on from the unpleasantness and the noise.

But all I could think as we made our way through the water lilies was that most of those girls I had seen the night before would have been thrilled if they could have been in a boat on a blooming lake in the company of a man like him.

Even if he was an ass.

Peace,

Mana

Happy Elephants in Thailand

Photo by Into the Wild Elephant Camp

Photo by Into the Wild Elephant Camp

Hey y’all,

So, yesterday I hung out with half a dozen elephants.

If you are ever in Chiang Mai, the most ethical company for this kind of tour is Into the Wild Elephant Camp. Due to animal activism, many of the companies have shifted away from riding elephants to caring for them.

However, many are still putting these magnificent creatures into pens and chaining them up, and not caring for them all that well. We saw them at other camps on the way to this one.

At this place, the elephants roam the property freely and they are VERY happy elephants.

Here’s the link:

https://www.intothewildelephantcamp.com/

Elephants are awesome! Intimidating, but awesome, and yesterday was magical. Even if I got injured, it was a fabulous day.

For the record, it wasn’t the elephants’ fault. It was the guide’s for guiding me to wet, jagged rocks and mine for not sticking with the direction I had chosen.

I was part of a group of 6 who signed up for the all-day experience. A solo dude traveler from Scotland, a couple from Ireland, a brother and sister from Germany, and me.

As soon as we arrived, we changed into red poncho-type tops, so the elephants would recognize us as their herd.

I think sugar cane helped sweeten them up towards us because that’s the first thing we did. We each got a bag of sugar cane the same color as our poncho, and the elephants were all about us then.

6 elephants for 6 of us. 2 large, fully grown elephants and 4 young and growing elephants.

Sometime next year, it will be 7 elephants because one of them is pregnant. She’s 1 year into it, and we could feel her baby bump on both sides.

Did you know elephants are pregnant for 2 YEARS??!!!! Our guide told us the baby elephant will be about 2 meters when it’s born. Poor elephant mama!

The elephants ignored the 1 elephant/person rule and swarmed to whomever had sugar cane in hand. Since I took my time feeding my elephant, I still had sugar cane when everybody else was out. At one point, I was swarmed with 3 elephant trunks around me.

They could smell the sugar, I tell you.

I guess elephants, like humans, have a thing for sweetness.

Anyway, our tour entailed feeding the elephants, hiking with the elephants, hanging out with the elephants while they fed on anything green, coming back for lunch, feeding the pregnant elephant our lunch leftovers (she was the only one who hung around where we were eating), smashing and mashing the “elephant medicine” – came from the source, various foods like rice, bananas, sugar cane cubes, and bitter root and other stuff mashed together manually to make a ball of vitamin and mineral mush – and feeding them a ball of gunk apiece.

Then we gave the elephants a mud bath and took them to the deeper pond where they rolled around in the water.

Photo by Into the Wild Elephant Camp

Photo by Into the Wild Elephant Camp

We splashed them and they splashed us. But they were definitely more comfortable and playful with the staff who works with and cares for them every day. They acted like giant, goofy dogs – especially the young elephants, who sprayed all of us from their trunks.

The two giants were more dignified. One of them wouldn’t get in the pool with us. The pregnant one did though. But no rolling around in the water for her.

Anyway, to experience this piece of specialness was worth slipping on a rock. That happened at the first leg of the hike. We walked single file with elephants in front of and behind us.  

I had fallen behind with Scottish Joey and the elephants made it to the creek ahead of us. They splashed and sprayed themselves and got the rocks wet. Joey found another route further up the creek bed. I was taking that way, and should have stuck with it because the rocks were dry.

But like an idiot, I listened to the guide who said the rocks right next to the elephants were a better route.

It wasn’t.

Photo by yours truly!

Photo by yours truly!

I made it across two rocks before I slipped on the third. I fell on my right shin and flopped gracelessly into the creek.

I was right next to the elephants when it happened, and made some kind of shriek because my leg hurt like hell. The guides got me out of there quickly and the elephants made snuffling, distressed noises and came out of the creek when I did, swinging their trunks and one of the bigger ones was scratching the ground with its giant foot.

“See, the elephants are worried about you! They know something happened and it scared them too.”

I don’t know if that was actually true, or if the guide lied to keep me from freaking out.

I was more than a little intimidated. I felt compelled to bow to the elephants to tell them I was fine, even with blood streaming down my leg.

No OCD concerns about germs, health, and safety over here. One of the guides patted at my wounds with his sandy hands, and the Irish nurse cringed and thought to herself: “Oh, don’t do that. Don’t do that.”

We kept hiking.

Photo by Into the Wild Elephant Camp

Photo by Into the Wild Elephant Camp

Other than asking me if I was all right from time to time, the tour went on and the guide assured me I’d get my leg cleaned up during lunch.

“Do you have antibacterial cream?”

“We have alcohol.”

We hung out with the elephants that ignored us as they fed on the grasses and branches and tore down anything that was in their way.

My throbbing, torn up leg distracted me some, but no way was I going to let that get in the way.

At lunch, my leg did get cleaned up while I listened to the Europeans discussing politics.

It started with Scottish Joey asking if they thought Britain was nuts because of Brexit. Apparently, a big election is happening in Ireland as well. And it struck me how much knowledge they had over the social and political state of their respective countries.

Then it was time for elephant medicine, mud baths and the swim.

Swimming with the elephants was my favorite part, and it was also the grand finale. I forgot my bathing suit, but I still went in.

So yeah, I’m having some gorgeous experiences on this trip.

Peace,

Mana

The Gentle Grace of Luang Prabang

Photo by yours truly

Photo by yours truly

Hey y’all,

The one thing that really strikes me about the people in Laos is how gentle and demure they are, even many of the men.

It’s been lovely.

Luang Prabang is an odd mixture of elegance and gritty 3rd world primitive. There are charming and picturesque guesthouses, restaurants, and cafes; yet a few doors down is somebody’s basic living, where people are cooking over open fires and eating with their friends and family on the sidewalk.

On one side of the street are spendier restaurants clearly for tourists, while on the other a Mom and Pop stop where the food is delicious, basic, truly Laos cuisine, and MUCH CHEAPER.

The best place to see the early-morning monks going past was the guesthouse at the end of the road where locals set up to give them the rice they cooked with intention and blessing.

I stayed there for $10/night, where kids played in the streets and at the convenience store, they made fresh Laos-style tortillas every day and hung them on racks to dry in the sun.

Yet a block away, at the lovely and comfortable hotel, the people giving alms were tourists. They got their rice from the store across the street – but I’m sure they blessed their rice.

On the main road a block up, it was obnoxious.

Somebody told me the monks put the tourist rice in a different place and fed it to the dogs, because they don’t want to sully the holy rice with crap.

I heard about that from a guide who had been a novice for 7 years.

Orange Robe Tours is a sweet company that gives former novices and monks a place to land when they leave the temple and have some time to adapt from the culture shock.

My tour guide’s name was Sounan. He had been out of the temple for a year, and said the transition had been difficult.

He said novices can join as young as 9 years old, but nobody can become a monk before they’re 20. He also explained that those wearing the orange robes with an open shoulder were novices, and those with both shoulders covered were monks.

I asked him if it were true that the monks can “give their vows back” if they decide they want to be a part of the world again. Yes, they could in Laos. But not in China.

He explained that in Laos, Thailand, and Cambodia, they practice Theraveda Buddhism. In China, Japan, and Vietnam, they practice Mahayana Buddhism.

Sounan explained that the 4 rules for everybody were: “Do not lie, do not steal, do not kill, and no sexual.”

The novices and monks have a lot more rules: “No play sport, no ride motorcycles, do not sit or stand ahead of monks (if you’re a novice)” – are the ones I remember.

Sounan said that many families send their sons to temple because they get a better education and to make them good people. The kids are on trial for a week before the decision is made. He also said that most of the novices came from the villages, that kids from bigger towns and cities like Luang Prabang and Vientiane didn’t want to go to temple.

He said he loved his time there, and still meditates every day twice a day.

I asked him a lot of questions about the similarities I had seen between Buddhism and Hinduism, and he’s the one who said: “Oh, we’re also Hindu.” But he didn’t elaborate.

I asked him about the fierce-looking Nagas – the serpent-like creatures I saw guiding people up to the Buddhas and the temples. Sounan explained that they were the guardians of the temples to keep out evil. And in China, the guardians were dragons.

He told me a legend of how the Naga became the guardian of the temples. Well, sort of. Storytelling here has a rather abrupt quality.

When Buddha was alive, a Naga really wanted to become a monk. So he transformed himself into a human and joined the temple as a novice.

The Buddha knew about it, but chose not to say anything.

But somebody, maybe a monk or another novice, knocked on the naga’s door and walked in, caught the naga in his serpentine form, and yelled foul.

Somehow, the do not lie rule translated into the Naga not allowed to become a monk, but to protect the temples he loved so much.

There was not much of a segue to get to the end. I asked Sounan if this was how the Naga became a temple guardian and he said yes.

There’s an awesome organization here called Big Brother Mouse, where travelers meet with Laos youth so they can practice their English.

I went once.

At first, I started with a bunch of teenage novice monks between the ages of 16-18. Many had been in the temple for 7 years since they were 11 years old, and when I asked if they wanted to be monks when they were 20, one of them said: “I don’t know.”

There was one who knew he wanted to be a monk. He didn’t join the temple until he was 14 (he was 16). It was hard for his parents because he was an only child.

“I miss playing sport,” he said, when I asked him what he missed most.

He’d only been studying English for a year, and he spoke it very well.

I was surprised to hear that the novices went to the regular high school with the other kids. With all their strict rules, that has to be pretty challenging.

“Remember that they can’t touch you or shake your hand,” said the guide who led me to the back patio with a half a dozen novices.

I went to a couple of dance performances where they did their traditional dances as a form of storytelling. This was in the Royal Ballet Theater within the gates of the National Museum. But really, this could have been a performance from a high school.

The costumes and masks were remarkable, but also kind of mismatched, and the dancing was very subtle. I would say it was more a form of physical theater than what we consider the athletic, acrobatic art of dance. They moved their arms and hands a lot as a way of communicating the story.

The women’s hand gestures were very delicate, and a couple of them seemed almost double jointed with how well they stretched their fingers out.

They were telling an epic saga with a different episode each night for a total of 8 or 9 episodes. If I’d known about this soon enough, I would have been able to go to all of them.

But it was just as well. As delicate and interesting as it was, 2 performances were enough for me. Again, very random and abrupt storytelling.

Differences of culture. I’m sure the people of Laos find their storytelling very lyrical and poetic in their own language.

Peace,

Mana

Cave of 1000 Buddhas and Badly Treated Elephants

Photo by yours truly!

Photo by yours truly!

Hey y’all,

For my last day in Luang Prabang, Laos, I had the grand adventure of kayaking on the Mekong River for a few hours. The main goal was to see the Pakou caves that were well known for having over a 1000 Buddhas, many of which were hundreds of years old, and many of which were headless. They were made of earth and fell apart over time.

Before we got there, we had the unfortunate experience of having lunch with some poorly treated elephants. That was not part of the tour description by the way.

Activism for the humane treatment elephants has spread far and wide, and has really impacted elephant tourism in Chiang Mai and Thailand. Most of the tours advertised are caring for the elephants and feeding them, but not riding them.

That kind of awareness has not fully reached Laos. I would say what is offered is about half and half. There were still tours advertising a chance to ride an elephant, as well as the humane caring for them.

Not the place we stopped for lunch, however. It was actually pretty frigging awful.

As we were walking up the hill, I heard a rustling in the bushes to my left. At first, I was excited to see an elephant coming out of the brush, swinging its trunk. Then I heard some guy yelling at it, and then I saw the elephant was being used as a beast of burden and dragging a couple of logs.

Photo by yours truly!

Photo by yours truly!

Song, our guide, warned me to be careful and to steer clear. I hustled up the hill and past the maligned elephant. But there were 2 more where we’d be eating.

Where we ate, the elephants were chained up and not given much space to move. They seemed restless, swinging their trunks and fluttering their ears, while taking what steps they could to move around. There was no water and no food nearby for them, and they were pretty much hanging out close to their own feces.

Song, our guide, told us to be careful because you never knew when the elephants would be calm and friendly, or angry and aggressive.

Well yeah.

Photo by yours truly

Photo by yours truly

The elephants were clearly not happy. I could hardly blame them. The only kindness extended to the two near our lunch was that at least they were chained up in the shade.

The bitter irony of this was that the eco-touring company’s name was “White Elephant Tours.”

The German kids I was the kayaking tour with were aware. One of them said: “I’m not spending any money here. Elephants are such intelligent animals. They know what’s happening to them.”

Good to see this kind of awareness outside of Portland. Apparently, elephant welfare has spread far; but in Luang Prabang, Laos, it still needs to spread further.

I don’t understand why the elephants were treated so poorly. Luang Prabang used to be known as the land of a million elephants.

Also, from what I’ve seen in the temples, the elephant is one of Buddhism’s sacred animals. In India, the Hindus treat their sacred cows and bulls like royalty. They go wherever they want and do whatever they want. So it’s baffling to me that the mentality would so different in Laos and in Thailand in the recent past.

This was a bit of an unusual trip in that I joined a small group who had been trekking for a couple of days. I had signed up for a sole kayak tour earlier in the week, but couldn’t make it because I woke up with a headache.

Photo by yours truly

Photo by yours truly

Financially at least, White Elephant Tours was very nice. The cost of the tour was $450,000 kip (about 50 bucks). Since I dropped at the last minute, they couldn’t refund my money, which I didn’t expect anyway. But to join this group because everything had already been set and paid for, I only to pay $100,000 kip (or a little over 10 bucks). So I rode in the back of a tuk tuk for 1 ½ hours to pick up three German students and their tour guide, Song, who had been on a 2-day trek and the last leg of their package was to hit the water of the Mekong River in kayaks. We started with 2 guys and a girl. But apparently, the girl didn’t take care of herself during the trek. She didn’t drink enough water and by the 3rd day was so dehydrated that she felt light-headed and nauseous. She didn’t make it to the Pakou caves of 1000 Buddhas. She had the tuk tuk driver pick her up at lunch.

Photo by yours truly

Photo by yours truly

The caves were cool with all the Buddhas, but my favorite part was the kayaking. The Mekong River was far more beautiful the further we were from Luang Prabang.

I love witnessing the world from the level of the water. To see this area from the river is such a different perspective. The water buffaloes at the river’s edge, the fishermen fishing and harvesting river weed. (It’s the river version of seaweed, an acquired taste. A bit more bitter and pungent than seaweed.) The limestone cliffs where there was a pause before the echo were pretty spectacular too.

Photo by yours truly

Photo by yours truly

I love kayaking.

And this was the perfect last adventure before I left Laos.

The bottles of lao lao whiskey with baby cobras and scorpions and green snakes were pretty creepy and macabre. According to Song, they were for medicinal purposes. By absorbing the essence of the snake or scorpion, certain ailments could be healed.

Photo by yours truly. Really, how could I not include a picture!

Photo by yours truly. Really, how could I not include a picture!

That puts the voodoo doctors in New Orleans to shame.

Peace,

Mana

The Reprieve of Pai, Thailand

Photographer? C’est moi!

Photographer? C’est moi!

Hey y'all,

For the sake of keeping things somewhat current (and to prevent y'all from the impression that I'm doing nothing but weird, twisted, sex cult stuff - don't worry, I'll get back to that), I just spent 4 days in Pai with Kip, and I’m going to Laos with Kip and Angela today.

That Mekong river trip Kip mentioned became a 1 hour flight to have more time in a city with an ancient history, a strong influence from the French colony days when Laos was part of Indochine, and apparently a lot of Buddhist monks and temples. Should be pretty cool.

Anyway, Pai was gorgeous and very sweet, and the only thing that went wrong was that I was horribly sick on my last day and couldn't go on a tour to see the hot springs, pai canyon, maybe get an explanation of the bizarre mural I saw in the temple near the white Buddha, etc.

This is the 2nd time I've been sick since I got here. I got sick at the Tao and Tantra shitshow, but that paled in comparison to everything else that was going on there.

This last is possibly from something I ate, but it occurred to me that the viruses and yuck percolating in Thailand are completely different from the crud in the States and I have NO IMMUNITY.

Awesome!

I guess I'm building some up.

Anyway, I'll spare the ugly details except to say it started at 2 in the morning on Thursday, and my entire body was on fire all day.

I hurt everywhere and I was so bummed out, because I was scared I wouldn't be able go back to Chiang Mai yesterday and would miss the plane today. (Today in Thailand is Saturday, btw. It's so bizarre to think that today here is yesterday for y'all.)

I guess not eating anything and drinking water all day and sleeping for 2 days straight did the trick.

Except for a caffeine deprivation headache, I woke up feeling all right yesterday and was able to come back.

Pai is definitely a backpacker's destination.

It's kind of trippy in that it reminded me of Portland and Bourbon Street in New Orleans in a hippie, international backpacker kind of way.

There's tons of vegan cafes (Sabby, this place is your dream!) and bars that are completely set up to appeal to Western travelers.

But at the same time, it's also very Thai. I'm not understanding the fascination with Superman and Captain America that I saw on the road stop to Pai and then in Pai.

I asked Kip about it, and he didn't have much to say except that people like the superheroes there.

Photo also by me.

Photo also by me.

There's this odd, kitschy, childlike wonder about Pai.

For example, I took some obscure stairs from the road up to the temple site, and there were Buddha statues and whatnot, but also these joyful kid statues saying welcome.

It seemed out of place, but I guess it's a thing here. Cause I've seen them more than once.

I didn't know this, but apparently, modest dress is required at the Buddhist sites.

There are signs asking us to "Please dress politely" before entering.

I inadvertently broke that rule going into the temple where I saw the weird mural.

I hope I don't go to one of the Buddhist hells for that - but it was an innocent mistake.

Photo by me. Gruesome, huh?

Photo by me. Gruesome, huh?

Before I went up the stairs to the white Buddha, a couple of Thai women started shouting at me from their booth, where I had to rent a skirt.

I was wearing denim shorts, which is a no-no.

They were very sweet as they wrapped that skirt around me and it didn't even cost a dollar.

I said this on Facebook, but I really wish I had a knowledgeable tour guide with me.

At the reclining Buddha, many of the murals reminded me of the Hindu pantheon of gods and goddesses, and since they didn't look like hellish scenes, I wondered what the connection was.

Maybe I'll find out eventually.

Apparently, around here, the style of Buddhism is Theraveda, and sometimes even Tantric Theraveda Buddhism.

These differ from Mahayana Buddhism and Vajrayana Buddhism - which is another form of Tantric Buddhism, which I did not know existed until this trip.

What that lets me realize is that there is so much I don't know about the history of Buddhism, and that our Westernized, watered-down version of it probably doesn't even come close to the truth.

Travel is another form of education.

Tantra is following me everywhere, it seems. Not that I'm complaining.

Anyway, wasn't that a stroke of luck that Kip reached out via Facebook as I was enroute to Thailand?

If that's not a sign that somebody upstairs was looking out for me, I don't know what is.

His presence made it very easy to leave a situation - that although there were some gifts there - was really fucked up and triggering the hell out of me.

Kip's an interesting cat.

Running into him again brought back a lot of memories of that time in my life in SE Alaska, and truth is, I only met him once when he came through Juneau on his way to Skagway.

He's been good medicine, even if the reasons why are surprising.

Kip is a great guy and he's loved and admired by all his friends for the gifts he brings. He is not, however, somebody you can go deep with. He is not somebody you go to with your troubles or when you have things on your mind. His housemate, Angela, confirmed that.

"The thing with Kip is you can't talk to him about anything negative. That's just who he is. But he'll keep you in the present moment."

Angela's description of him as on point.

He does keep one in the present, and he is a wealth of knowledge, especially when it comes to traveling on a shoestring budget. In that, the man is a machine.

For example, he found a flight from Tel Aviv to Paphos, Greece (birthplace of Aphrodite) for $15. That is FIFTEEN dollars!

This is while planning his route back to Alaska, taking a few days in the birthplace of Aphrodite before doing an overland train trip across Europe to Paris, where "there are some great deals there," - all of this hypothetical as he's considering his options.

If I wonder about a tree or shrub, or the bright orange, climbing, flowering plant, he will research until he finds it, and then send me the link. (It was the orange trumpet vine.)

He found our fabulous mud huts, and figured out the back road, scenic walk past the long neck Karens into the bustle of touristic Pai rather than the busy road that was kind of nervewracking, and the possibility was constant that I need worry about being hit by a car or a motorbike.

When I was sick, he brought me sugary ginger tea and a packet of electrolytes. I'm pretty sure that's why I was able to kick it after another night.

There's a lot to be said about receiving the natural gifts somebody brings to the table and being thankful for that.

Kip has definitely been my travel angel since I got here. I would have been in a much worse state if I didn't have friends to go to when I left that workshop early.

Kip and company also made for a very POSITIVE start to this journey, because my trip began with them.

If I hadn't dragged my jetlagged butt into town right after getting here, it would have begun with Quixotic Sierra and that mess.

"Well, I guess it depends on how you want to spend your chi," Sierra had said when I told her I was leaving to meet Kip.

Yeah, I think that was a good use of my chi.

So here's to Kip in all his glory!

Peace,

Mana