Hey y’all,
One legitimate complaint Sierra had about Source Tantra - it was 3 full days before any announcement that drew attention to her as the LGBTQ pod leader.
As I wrote earlier, there were a few queer women involved in Source Tantra - gay dakini Lisa, lesbian doctor Debbie, and 2 bisexual pod leaders.
On the day I left, I learned dakinis Leah and Lisa, and some of the advanced and elite teachers, were exploring ways to make this event more queer-inclusive with who they already had.
But Sierra squawked and hollered about the last Masters where the gays didn’t find each other until Day 9 out of a 10 day workshop, and she was the Great Queer Hope.
If they wanted to make the Masters more queer-safe and queer-friendly, she was the one for the job.
Yeah, right.
Anyway, Solla, the organizer of the Masters event, couldn’t bring herself to introduce Sierra as the queer pod leader. Instead, she formed random pods through numbers – all 1s go to such and so, all 2s go to who do you call her, all 3s, etc.
This was the first night.
Since I believed Sierra would provide the queer base she said she would, I left the pod I landed in to join hers, even though her pod looked as straight as mine.
Sierra had what my grandmothers used to call “a bosom,” and hers was an ample bosom.
Heroic Sierra draped a rainbow flag across that ample bosom and declared her pod for the queers.
Her pod looked so confused. Some even looked stricken.
“If you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or questioning, that’s who I’m here for.”
Everybody cleared out fast. The queer pod was down to me and Sierra.
Solla came running over with a panicked what-the-hell-just-happened look on her face.
Somehow 3 brave souls wandered back to the queer pod.
One was a Frenchwoman who gave off the vibe, but she made it clear that she wanted to connect with a man.
Another was a Polish woman who seemed rather fearless and I saw her holding hands with an English woman – maybe bisexual? More likely just European.
The third I’ll call Virgil (not his real name).
At almost 29, Virgil shared he didn’t have sex until he was 26, and that he’d only had sex with 1 girl. He didn’t get specific beyond that, which makes me think it only happened once – a near-virgin? Virgil said he was there to learn how to interact with the feminine.
That guy had my respect.
To be that transparent, and to show up to a workshop like the Masters with his inexperience - that takes epic courage. It also takes courage to stick it out in the queer pod when you’re straight. Inexperienced, but straight.
Anyway, we embraced ourselves as an intimate group. Because we were so small, there was time to share, and that’s how I learned so much about Virgil.
Sierra stated that everybody could ask her anything because she had LOTS of expertise in Tao and Tantra. Maybe she wants to be the Lesbian Charles Muir?
Our pod gained new members by the end of intention-sharing. These folks didn’t arrive until the 2nd day, and missed the rainbow flag draped across heroic Sierra’s ginormous tits.
For whatever reason, Solla finally recovered enough to introduce Sierra as the queer liaison. This was on the 3rd night.
And that’s how I got my Tantra Buddy.
Anyway, after Solla finally announced Sierra as one for the queers, Elise (not her real name) from Toronto approached her, said she was so relieved and that she now felt more comfortable there.
Sierra introduced me to Elise briefly at dinner. The next morning, I passed her on the break during Mantak Chia’s class. She said hi and we stopped to chat. She asked immediately if I’d be interested in being her tantra buddy to practice these techniques. Elise also said she was surprised to learn some new tricks in the lecture that she hadn’t come across before.
One thing about the Masters, they got the ball rolling. They gave us homework from the word go.
Dakini Leah made it very clear that we wouldn’t learn Neo-Tantra from reading and paying attention in class. We had to practice.
Because Sierra was too busy healing the souls of people who were 1000s of miles away, only to claim exhaustion afterwards, I hadn’t been able to practice at all.
It was the 4th day.
So in answer to Elise’s invitation, I was open to it but I’d like to get to know her some since I’d only met her for a minute the night before. Even though she asked me first, I asked if she was comfortable with something so intimate running out of the gate.
“Oh yeah,” she said. “I’m a sexological bodyworker and pro domme. I do this all the time.”
Ok then.
